Our relationships, whether that be with lovers, family friends or the community are essential for good mental and emotional health.
There are two good reasons for this:
First, our relationships buffer us from the negative effects of stress.
It is to the people we love and trust we take our everyday troubles.
If our relationships are of low quality, we don’t receive that protection.
Second, if the relationships we need to support us our are not meeting our needs, we tend to experience that as distressing in itself.
If our relationships are chaotic, so is our mind and emotions.
Unfortunately our capacity to build and sustain healthy relationships cannot be taken for granted.
For some people, we found it difficult to form the relationships we need in childhood, and have struggled to do any better as an adult.
Sometimes, particularly for intimate relationships, you may need to come as a couple.
However the choice is yours.
As a psychotherapist I always aim to carefully assess your individual circumstances, to give you the right information about what is going wrong, and how you can best address the issues you face.
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